Happy International Women’s Day.

(And in case you were wondering, there is an International Men’s Day, on 19th November.)

I’d like to talk a little bit about domestic abuse, although I wish I didn’t have to. According to government statistics:

  • 1 in 6 women in Australia (and 1 in 16 men) have experienced physical or sexual violence from a current or previous cohabiting partner
  • 25% of women (and 5% of men) have experienced emotional abuse from a current or previous cohabiting partner
  • 1 woman is killed every 9 days (and 1 man is killed every 29 days) by a partner

Although it’s clear that domestic abuse is a problem for both men and women, it is much more of a problem for women. As Margaret Atwood said “Men are afraid that women will laugh at them. Women are afraid that men will kill them.” .

Emotional and financial abuse present a particular problem in that it may be less obvious that you’re being abused; therapists hear “he/she doesn’t hit me but …” all too frequently. Here are some signs that you may be being abused, and here’s a quiz (maybe the only one you’ll ever do where zero is the best score).

If you know or suspect you’re being abused, or if something doesn’t feel quite right, then seek help. Speak to a counsellor or contact one of the organisations listed below, but tread carefully: it’s often said that the most dangerous time for an abused woman or children is when leaving the relationship.

Some useful organisations/numbers are:

If you feel you might be in danger, you might also want to put the Positive Pathways app on your phone. This looks like a normal wellbeing app but, amongst other protection features, has a “disguised” 000 button that allows you to call the police without an abuser realising.

Well that’s all rather depressing so I’d like to finish with something positive, so here’s a video of an inspirational woman, Michelle Obama, doing her thing in carpool karaoke.

Stay safe, people.

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